If you live with cerebral palsy and disabilities (or have a child who does), what do you want people to know about how people talk to and interact with you? It’s important to recognize and be sensitive to our differences when engaging with people. This guide is a good start for learning how to be more respectful with people with disabilities.
Respectful, People-First Language
Times have changed, and some words or phrases are no longer acceptable to use when referring to or talking to someone with a disability. One of the biggest changes is the use of people-first language. This means prioritizing the person, not their disability.
For example, instead of referring to someone as a disabled person, say a person with a disability. The first phrase implies the disability is the most important thing about this individual. The second phrase implies that the disability is just one part of this person’s identity.
Some terms have also become outdated and have been replaced by more respectful language. Think before you use old-fashioned words or phrases to describe someone with a disability. One basic example is the shift from handicapped to disabled or even differently abled.
Meeting Someone With a Disability
As the people-first language movement points out, people are not defined by their disabilities. A person with cerebral palsy is many things. When you meet someone with disabilities, get to know them as individuals, as you would with anyone else.
When introduced, make eye contact and talk to the individual, even if they have someone who helps them with communication. Speak as you would to anyone else. If they need you to speak more loudly, let them ask. If you don’t understand their speech, say so.
It’s also important not to assume disabilities. For example, if you meet someone with obvious physical disabilities, don’t assume they have a cognitive impairment. Someone with a visual impairment doesn’t necessarily also have a hearing impairment.
Etiquette for Mobility Aids
When you meet someone who uses a wheelchair or other disability aid, keep these tips in mind:
- Don’t touch their mobility aid without asking.
- Don’t lean or sit on someone’s wheelchair.
- Place yourself at the person’s eye level, if possible.
- Consider how a person with a mobility aid will navigate certain areas or obstacles.
Etiquette for Vision Impairment
If someone has a vision impairment, follow these etiquette rules:
- Identify yourself and anyone else with you.
- Don’t hold on to someone to guide them without permission.
- Let the individual hold your arm if they want your help.
- When navigating with an individual with vision impairment, be specific about obstacles and distances.
Etiquette for Hearing Impairment
These are some important guidelines for interacting with someone with hearing impairment:
- Tap them gently on the arm or shoulder to get their attention.
- Don’t shout. If they need you to speak more loudly, they’ll ask.
- Look directly at the individual and speak clearly, as they may read lips.
- Speak to the individual, even if they have an interpreter.
Etiquette for Speech or Language Disabilities
Many people with cerebral palsy have speech difficulties. When interacting with them, keep these rules in mind:
- Be patient and allow the person time to try to communicate effectively.
- Ask one question at a time and let them answer fully before asking another.
- Do not interrupt someone who is trying to tell you something.
- Give the individual time to use any assistive technology that helps them communicate.
When in Doubt, Ask
Most importantly, for any type of disability, ask questions. Don’t be afraid to ask about their needs or preferences. This shows respect and allows the individual to direct your interaction. Don’t assume they want help with something. Always ask first.
Being respectful isn’t difficult, but when someone has different abilities, you may need to think more before you speak or act.
